I've been having a hard time so I tell myself, to make myself feel better, "I have it so good compared to some", and that fact really brings no comfort. In fact, it always makes me feel worse.
Dear Not Helping,
Forcing yourself to say, “I have it good” is a way of denying the pain you feel. It's spiritual-religious masochism.
Let me explain it this way... If you are in pain and I tell you that you aren’t in pain, that wouldn’t help.
So, if you are having a hard time, why would you tell yourself that you have to change your attitude?
If it brings you any comfort at all, you are in very good company. Many people do this.